If you’re not feeling like cozying up to your partner immediately after giving birth, you’re not alone.
“Sex is nonexistent for the first couple months,” new momCoco Austin says in PEOPLE’s Mom Talk series. “It definitely changes … you don’t get the okay to even have sex or go to the gym until 16 [weeks].”
She continues, “But you don’t even want sex, that’s the thing. Everything is about the child and nothing is sexual in your world. I never thought about this!”
ESPN SportsCenter host Hannah Storm, who has three daughters, knows the feeling.
“You don’t feel attractive, that’s a huge part of it, and you’re tired,” Storm, 53, says. “It’s a miracle that multiple children are actually conceived.”
In fact, PEOPLE editor Janine Rubenstein is trying to unravel that mystery herself.
“I’m trying to figure out — of course, you want a baby and you have that feeling, like, let’s have a baby, and then you have one and you realize how wonderful and how terribly hard it is and you’re like, how do you come to the mindset to have another one?” she asks.
Austin, 36, also brings up the tricky logistics of even trying to conceive again.
“At night, the dogs, the baby — we all plop into our bed and it is a full bed,” she says. “So there’s no alone moments with your husband.”
— Andrea Park